There are exactly two types of clients:
- The type who see you as a person, often deserving of some serious respect
- The type who see you as a fetish-delivery system
These second ones are assholes… but they’re also, sadly, a part of the job.
I get a lot of flack for not having a face photo up on either my fetlife account, or on any other online space. I just don’t. I have a personal life, and I don’t need you sending photos of me around. When a potential client sends me a face photo, I NEVER send it anywhere, but then again, I don’t really have a reason to. If I ruined someone’s life, I lose a client, gain an enemy, and add drama…. I fail to see my motivation.
I get a lot of flack. I lose clients for it. Not too long ago, I was speaking with a potential client. Things looked good and we enjoyed chatting. I started pushing for a date and time to have a session.
“Do you have a face photo?”
“Are you SURE?! Just oooooooooooooooooooone???”
Later that day, I checked in with him again. Had he figured out a date when we could meet? His response: “I’m going to work with another Dominatrix in the area. I KNOW she’s hot, and I have her photos.”
When you run the risk of being rejected up to three times in a day, you have to learn to roll with it. To accept that some people want the fantasy more than they want the skills or experience. As a friend of mine said when I told him this, “I feel sorry for him. He wants the looks, but the minute she walks in the room, he’s gotten the only thing he really went there for.” And it’s true.
But also, I need to remind myself that this is not a career for the faint of heart, or the easily spooked. That if you can’t take rejection on a near constant basis, you really need to find another path. Because in ProKink, you either grow a thicker skin, or…
Thanks, Spidey. Love the latex. Mmmmmmmm……